One thing you quickly realize in the elder law planning area is how complex the situations are and how many variables affect the decisions of our elder population. One thing I know: placing your head in the sand is not a good option. That option just places greater stress on other loved ones who then, by default, must make decisions for you.
I regularly correspond with other elder law attorneys and caregivers – always looking for better ideas. One article Dr. Caroline Dott recently submitted to ElderCareMatters, a cross-disciplinary group I belong to, had some real value. She recommended that we all need a “late-life plan” and need to discuss it with our family while we still have our mental faculties so we can enjoy the best possible late life stage. This is far better than defaulting in a crisis to the oldest daughter or son, who now, in the middle of raising his or her family, must make decisions for you.
Caroline recommended having discussion with your parents now. Begin by fantasizing what the most comfortable and fulfilling last stage of life would be like, and then ask for some details:
• Where and/or with whom will you live?
• What pleasurable, exciting activities will you participate in?
• Where and with whom will you travel?
• What experiences will you have to avoid any regrets at life’s end?
• How will you fund your plans for the rest of your life?
• When and how will you complete all legal transactions?
• Which family members/friends/experts will be responsible for managing your finances, medical/psychiatric, legal issues and funeral arrangements when you no longer can?
• After making the plan, notify all participating parties, providing them with copies of documents related to their responsibilities.
Well-made plans pay huge dividends to those that make them. Do it today.